Extreme Heart Makeover

After a long season of loss, betrayal, bitterness, abuse, divorce or loneliness one’s heart can become either too hard or too fragile, too closed or too open.

I find in my travels, speaking and counseling that far too many women suffer extreme heart issues.  The emotional pendulum swings from one end of extreme hardness or being extremely needy, desperate and naive. There are those extremely independent (“I don’t need any one)…all the way to the other extreme mindset of being too dependent. If you are afraid of being alone or think a relationship validates you and makes you whole, you could have a relationship addiction. Unfortunately I see this all too often.

When your self-esteem is healthy, the emotional pendulum swings in the middle because of healing, balance, prayer and self-awareness.  Open your eyes and see your real worth and beauty in the mirror.  Get balance in your life.   Seek advice help from the wise women in your life.  Pour all that misguided and untapped passion into your goals, purpose and dreams.  Begin to transform your thinking to believe you can take care of yourself.  If you think a man can save you, you are setting yourself up for an unhappy,  abusive and dominating relationship. You can do good all by yourself until the Lord sends the right one baby!

When you both bring something to the table, your chances for harmony, respect, love and common goals are increased.  But if you get into a relationship feeling empty and expect some one to fill your cup, you are giving away all of your power, value and self-worth.

I write in my book, “You Deserve More” , that desperation is a terrible perfume to wear.  The scent of a woman is powerful.  Dogs can smell desperation, neediness, immaturity and weakness.  A woman with self-esteem has the aroma of confidence, faith and self-worth.

When your heart is smart you can avoid the pitfalls, problems and pain of living in a chaotic, drama filled, sitting by phone, life on hold and stressful world.

You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay.  If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life,” you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Don’t allow other people to control, manipulate or validate your existence. Value your dreams, body, goals, time and peace of mind.  If you don’t… no one else will.  Learn how to discern between lust, like and love.  Learn how to love smart.  Don’t allow your heart to be attacked by abusers and losers.

As you heal your heart of illusions, grudges, fantasies, desperation and bitterness, your opportunities increase to have a righteous relationship.

As the Self-esteem Dr. I have performed many heart makeovers and CPR to help women breathe again.

Read Proverb 23:7 and remember that as a man(woman) thinketh, so is he(she).  This powerful teaching reminds us that  right thinking begins with the words we say to ourselves.  If you think in your heart that you are not worthy…not pretty…not loving…not blessed…not qualified…then you will have more that in your life. Begin to speak and think in your heart that you are qualified, beautiful, divine, blessed, grateful, anointed and loved. Wear the sweet aroma of self-esteem, confidence and a daughter of the Most High God. “Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” – Proverbs 4: 23

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr., Author, Conference Speaker, Women’s Retreat Leader, Life Coach, Founder of Women on the Grow

To contact Jewel visit www.DoNotGiveUp.net or call 323.964.1736

e-mail –  JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Stick… Don’t Quit

I define a “serial quitter” as someone who looks for quick fixes, short cuts, drive-through spiritual fast food and all green lights on their road to success.   They often are running in the wrong lane towards the wrong finish line.   Sometimes their ladder of success is propped up against the wrong wall.   Have you said “yes” to the right assignment/purpose for your life?
Once you become clear, determined, diligent, relentless and resilient… no thing and no one can stop you.  Yes, they can discourage you, but you learn to overcome restlessness, impatience, pain and obstacles. Moments of uncertainty and impatience will come, but they subside.
Have you ever stood in line at the grocery store; the line was too long, you were in a hurry, someone ahead of you was taking too long. In your frustration, you kept changing lanes. You exhaled loudly and complained that the store needed more clerks. This is a test of your patience. On the way to your dream/goal/destiny/task, you will experience delays and discouragement.  It’s a test!!!! Can you wait without reward?  Can you endure waiting?   Can you endure when God is silent in your valley?   Can you enjoy the moment?   Patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit.   Patience comes from the Latin word “suffer.” Worship while you wait. Work while you wait. Give thanks while you wait.  Prepare while you wait.  When there is a delay, faith says STAY!
Don’t catch another train because things are not going your way. Overcome a short attention span.  Don’t quit, stick with your plan.

No longer start and stop.   Procrastination is a thief.   No more excuses. Instead of venting your complaints or getting bent out of shape with impatience, be diligent.   Get up and keep the main thing…the MAIN THING!

My word of encouragement for you today is to stay in your lane.   Stay on track.  Laziness, procrastination, lack of confidence and lack of self-control are the enemies to your success.   Be diligent in your faith and actions.   You probably have my book “Shift Happens”.  Remember to read often.    Repetition is important for transforming of your mind to think and bounce back in positive ways.

“The soul of the diligent shall be made full (blessed by the Lord and made to prosper.) ~ Proverbs 13:4

Let Hope Feed Your Soul

 

The definition of HOPE is to look forward to with desire and reasonable confidence…the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.

Hope is the feeling you have that the feeling you have isn’t permanent. ~ Jean Kerr

If you’ve destroyed a man’s hope, you’ve destroyed the man. ~ John du Plessis

There is no worse death than the end of hope.~ Pelagius

One who has health has hope, and one who has hope has everything. ~ Arabic Proverb

Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.~ Psalm 1:24

Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.  You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up. ~ Anne Lamott

I have put my hope in your word. ~ Psalm 119:74

Hope dies last but is first to be resurrected from the ashes.~ Leonid S. Sukhorukov

Hope is the poor man’s bread. ~ George Herbet

Fear can hold you prisoner.  Hope can set you free. ~ The Shawshank Redemption

Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible. ~ Charles Caleb Colton

If it were not for hopes, the heart would break. ~ Thomas Fuller

There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off. ~ Psalm 23:18

If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream. ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr

Our ancestors had hope for freedom.   Our President Obama had the audacity to hope.    Every time I’m at the end of my rope… I still have hope. ~ www.DoNotGiveUp.net

To hear Jewel Diamond Taylor’s thought for the day call 310-943-9237

Release Words of Faith

Release words today of love, faith, courage, optimism, healing, faith, forgiveness, enthusiasm, cooperation, joy, peace, truth and gratitude.

Let your words of success take flight.

Shout words of victory and power to encourage yourself.

Fill your atmosphere with words of strength, determination and hope.

God’s Word in Proverbs 18:21 tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue.   Words are carriers of meaning, emotion, faith, fear and energy.

A repetitive teaching from my parents still echoes in my mind… “It’s not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it.”   And I remember, “Think twice before you speak.   If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”

And I heard as a child, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”  Now that statement is not true.  Words do carry the potential to hurt, linger, humiliate, misdirect, anger, sadden or crush one’s spirit.

Remember words can heal or hurt…bless or stress…create or destroy…attract or repel…motivate or discourage…decrease or increase your opportunities … demean or develop a healthy self-image.  As parents we are not perfect.   We often carry our wounds from words and then unknowingly pass them onto our children.   Once we forgive, heal and become aware of the impact of words, then we can break the generation cycle of low self-esteem and crushed spirits.

“The game of life is a game of boomerangs.  Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy. ” by Florence Scovel Shinn “Your Word is Your Wand.”

Think twice before you release words of anger, jealousy, lies, gossip, criticism, fear, vulgarity,  lack, excuses or defeat.   Different words evoke different feelings.

Send out your words like arrows with great intention, power and focus.

Don’t underestimate the power of words to make or break you financially.  Your words are boomerangs.   If you constantly speak only about lack, you will experience more little and lack.

Be more and more aware of God’s abundance, love and infinite provision; you can never really feel a state of lack and stress if you remember the truth … “The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.” (Psalms 23:1)

What words are you speaking and releasing today?

What words have taken flight and will return because of the law of cause and effect?  You possess what you confess.   If you believe the Word of God, speak and release your words of faith and believe the promises for your provision.  Read Mark 9:23

Guard Your Heart

     Your heart is the home of your emotions, hopes, dreams, faith and memories.   If you let down your guard, you can lose your temper, character, confidence, peace, focus and faith.  

     So it is very important to guard your heart when you experience a setback, sorrow, delays and disappointments. Sure there are times you may want to throw in the towel.  Yes, bad things do happen to good people.  You may be holding on with your fingernails.  Your tribulations and setbacks are a trap to convince you to give up. You may feel tired and alone.  When I experience those times, I search for the prayers, words, music and strength to remind me of what Gospel Artist Marvin Sapp sings in this week’s song pick…”If you could only see what God sees, you’d get excited about your destiny.”

         Don’t let bad times blur your focus and vision.  People usually say, ”I’ll believe it when I SEE it.”  I suggest you reverse that!  Faith requires you to SEE it before you believe it.  Faith in what God can do requires trust in what you cannot see in the natural.  You may not see your way out right now.  You may not see how you’re going to make it.  You may not see the house, car, the job, graduation, new health, debts reduced, traveling, marriage healed or your business/ministry flourishing.   

     What do you see?  What do you feel in your heart?  Don’t allow the enemy to block your vision and take your confidence.  See yourself walking in victory. See yourself in your mind’s eye experiencing the fulfillment of your purpose and goals.  Faith gives you the vision to see through the fog of fear, worry, shame and doubt.

     Comedian Flip Wilson used to say…“What you SEE, is what you get.”  He was teaching a spiritual principle.  

     Do you see yourself less than blessed, broken, and defeated?  Or do see yourself favored, prepared, optimistic, qualified,determined and loved by God?         Do see yourself as ugly, fat, too old and unlovable?  Or do you see yourself as beautiful, intelligent, creative, strong and loving?  Do you focus on your pain, lack and hurts or do you focus on gratitude, love, peace and success?   Do you see yourself as a failure or do you see yourself as a resilient, teachable and a blessed person? Begin to believe you can grow through your circumstances.  Click the link below to listen to this week’s inspirational song pick.  I pray it ministers to your heart and hopes.

                             ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

http://www.donotgiveup.net/SongPick10.htm 

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How to Stop Being Late

Admit that you need to improve on your punctuality.  Denial and excuses do not build up credibility, leadership or professional  qualities.  You’re creating a reputation for yourself, and it’s not the best reputation to be establishing.  People feel they can’t trust you or rely on you, so it impacts relationships and self-esteem.

Change your view point. Your appointments, job, family, team, church, committee, etc. need you and you’re doing them a disservice by not being there on-time and to show up, perform, give or serve.  You’re too valuable to be late.    Realize your tardiness is a problem for others.   Don’t use your lateness as an expression of power. .. “You’re less powerful, so you have to wait for me; I can keep you waiting.”

Frequent tardiness can be a way of expressing unconscious or intentional subtle messages of rebellion, anger and resentment.   Do you find yourself moving slow and late to a job you don’t like or an activity with your spouse/family/parent/friend because you are angry with them?   Do you resent being the caregiver in your family and so you show up late to the holiday dinner or family reunion?   Are you angry with co-workers or your church feeling overlooked and under appreciated, so you show up late to meetings and miss deadlines?   Do you resent filing your taxes and turning in a report on the job or at school because you feel it is unfair or too much of a demand?   Do you feel mistreated by others and your retribution is always being late …and you feel it is justified?   Your acts of tardiness are speaking loudly.  They could be the symptom of a deeper issue.   As you learn to resolve and heal your issues of rebellion, anger and resentment you will be more conscious, respectful and punctual in regards to your commitments and requests from others.

Reframe how you see yourself.  Stop defining yourself as someone whose always late – it boxes you in to that behavior.

Lay out your clothes, important papers, equipment, materials, tickets, laptop, accessories, etc. the night before.  I began to see the costs of being late and the payoffs of being on time.

When I started packing my car the night before a conference speaking engagement or travel, I noticed I had less stress and more time.

Build in cushions before and after everything.  You need drive time to get to appointments - add a few minutes to your estimate.  Often, appointments run over time so build in a cushion there, too.   Check and double check addresses and directions when you are going someplace new.   Take into consideration traffic, weather, parking issues, car problems and bad driving directions.

Manage expectations.   If you’re going to be late, give people a call so they know.  Allow time in the schedule for interruptions and preparation. This includes tasks like getting ready for work, finding locations of appointments, and getting directions.  Be sure to allow a little more time that you think you will need.  Schedule times for social activities and phone calls instead of letting them interrupt your work.

Punctuality is a function of basic professionalism, personal discipline, and respect for the time of others.

There are all sorts of time-management processes and tips that can improve punctuality, but they only work if the person has the discipline to apply them. And if the person has that discipline, they don’t need the processes.

Teach others how to respect your time with diplomacy and conviction.  If you are a people pleaser or weak in communicating your time schedule, you will allow people to put you in a time squeeze.  Here’s a great thing to say: “Excuse me, I hate to cut you off, but I have an appointment to keep.”  It is hard to cut someone off, but they will respect you for sticking to a schedule. The higher up you go in corporate life, the stricter the people stick to a schedule. The good news is that this means it’s perfectly acceptable in work life to draw time boundaries. Get comfortable doing it at work and then you can do it at home, too.  Saying “no” and shortening a phone call or activity to insure your promptness takes forethought and practice.

Prioritize and figure out what’s most important and just get that done.   Communicate with the people who depend on you – like your boss/spouse — what your time frames, priorities and need for delegation are.  I quickly learned from too many late and stressful times the importance of asking for help, putting gas in my car the day before, having a consistent place for my keys, purse and cell phone, programming my GPS before I leave, having phone numbers readily available and keeping healthy snacks in my car to avoid timely stops for food, gas, etc.

Wake up and realize your tardiness can affect your career opportunities negatively.  People, bosses, customers and your children do notice!

After being late for a hair appointment and being informed I couldn’t have my hair done that day and being charged a fee for a missed dentist appointment that I forgot…the costly pain and embarrassment taught me a lesson about respect, organization and punctuality.  Fear, pain, boredom and anger are primary motivating factors in human beings.  Unless there is a reward for being on time…or a punishment for not being on time…you will continue the bad and unprofessional habit of tardiness.

Putting yourself in other people’s shoes can make a big difference in punctuality. If you know what it feels like to be left waiting, then you will be less likely to cause that feeling in other people once you imagine their circumstances.   Remember the golden rule…Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

Set your clocks and watch ahead a little.  Mark the times of your appointments a little ahead of the actual time.

How much time, money and peace of mind have you lost?

How many relationships are ruined because you have not been dependable?

How many career opportunities have you lost because you lack organizational and time management discipline?

How many classes, lessons and projects did you have to repeat because you lack punctuality?

Who’s trust have you lost?

How has your business, family, credit or ministry suffered because you lack discipline with time?

Punctuality shows integrity

Punctuality is a trust issue. When you make an appointment, you are making a commitment to be where you said you’d be when you said you’d be there. The only way you build up other people’s trust in you is by consistently meeting your commitments — and that starts with being punctual.  The person who is always on time is someone others can trust to be as good as their word.

I believe my husband’s limousine/sedan transportation business is successful because he is a stickler for punctuality.  It used to be point of conflict for us because he would be frustrated with my tardiness and I thought he was being too bossy and too rigid.  I believe his repeat customers are “repeat” customers because they know they can trust his dependability, professionalism and punctuality.

Begin to implement these punctuality steps in your professional and personal life and you will experience peace, self-esteem, success,  less stress and gain the respect of others around you.

How to stop procrastinating

     The habit of procrastination is a common and big blockage to your experiencing success, health, peace of mind and a sense of satisfaction.  Procrastination steals your time, health, money, blessings, integrity, opportunities, and sleep.

What is your procrastination type? 

• The thrill seeker  looks forward to the rush he or she gets when facing last-minute deadline pressure.

• Decisional procrastinators - those who simply can’t make a decision; not making a decision relieves this type of procrastinator responsibility for the outcome of events, they rather pass the responsibility to someone else.
• Perfectionists - all or nothing type personality, suffers from paralysis of analysis, offers excuses instead of executing because they want all circumstances to be perfect which is unrealistic.
• Fearful - afraid of the unknown, doesn’t want to be embarrassed or have physical/emotional pain (i.e. dentist, taxes, school test), afraid to leave comfort zone, lacks faith, allows past results to give them a doomsday attitude.
• Dreamer - fantasizes, in denial, believes someone should do the task for them or rescue them, they believe others should serve them because of their status, power, image, age…they feel privileged and above others.  Their head is in the sky and blinds them from the consequences of delay and procrastination.
• Emotionally challenged - lonely, depressed, grief, apathetic, discouraged, addicted, conflicted, taking care of others first, not feeling worthy of success and happiness
• Clutter-bug – this personality type is unorganized, can’t find anything, won’t hang up their clothes, tasks and things pile up, they lack planning and good time management discipline.
• Playful fun type would rather focus on the easy and fun tasks, needs to mature and realize their lack of action will cost them.

How to stop the procrastination habit:

1. The big picture of losing weight, graduating, getting rid of clutter, writing your book or getting out of debt can seem daunting and impossible.  Break your tasks down into small steps.
2. Ask for accountability to complete what you start (i.e. coach, mentor, friend,
   

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   etc.)  Single, isolated, prideful and independent people need accountability or they will find quit with excuses and distractions.

3. Keep a clock, watch, calendar and things to do list in view at all times.
4. Stop worrying about perfection.  Seek progress not perfection.
5. Don’t lie to yourself and fool yourself.  Take responsibility for the quality and progress in your life.
6. Remember the con$sequences if you continue to avoid tasks. Remember the rewards you will experience if you do take action.
7. Eliminate distractions (i.e. TV, games, phone, food, music, etc.)
8. Spend more time with achievers,leaders, readers and people who believe that with faith and action anything is possible for those who trust in the Lord.  (imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. ~ Hebrews 6:11-12)

Did you know Jewel Diamond Taylor could be your Success Coach and help you break the procrastination habit?  Would you like to accomplish more and experience progress and success?  To set an appointment for your coaching session call 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com

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Watch Out for the Doubt

You may be saying to yourself…”It’s taking too long for my blessings to come.  I’m a good person.   I tithe.   I serve.   I help others.  I do the right thing.  I’ve turned my life around.   I don’t cheat or steal.   I offer up my prayers.   I’m loving.  Where is my mate, home, happiness, job or health?”

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (Proverb 4:23)

Guard your heart and emotions.   When you experience struggle, lack, shame, rejection and setbacks, these life experiences can shatter your sense of worth and hope.   When things don’t work out or you feel your blessings of success are being blocked…be careful of those self-diminishing thoughts i.e. “I’m a loser, I can’t win, Why am I doing this, It won’t work, I can’t do this, What’s the use?”The enemy of doubt and defeat can take over if you don’t guard your heart and thoughts.   You start to question your ability and opportunities.  A season of drought can cause self-doubt and drain you of your strength.

You can’t hurry God or take short cuts.   You don’t want to compromise your character or lose your faith, lose your way, lose your mind or lose your patience.   When things go wrong, you don’t have to go wrong with them.  Looking for love, comfort or a hiding place in someone’s bed, a bottle, food, drugs, excessive spending, anger or isolation are not the solution.   Learn how to respond to stress and changes in your life with courage, optimism and prayer.  Count your blessings.  Go on a fast.   Get outdoors.  Go for a walk. Enjoy some uplifting music.   Don’t call up the “energy vampires” (you know those negative people who drain your faith, peace and strength).
Take your attention off yourself and encourage someone else today.  Place your attention on solutions, faith and action.  Alter your thinking by laying your problems on the altar.   Be encouraged and resilient.   Some situations are beyond your control.

“Be of good courage and He shall strengthen your heart” (Psalm 31:24).

Surrendering and being still until your storm passes is not a sign of weakness.   Sometimes it’s the best and only thing to do.

No matter how good a person you are or how much preparation you make, stuff happens.

No matter how strong the attack, be still and Trust God.

You may be experiencing envy, threats from bill collectors, loneliness, heartache or wondering how you will get through your season of drought.   Read more in my book “Shift Happens.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

Self-control

Self-control is your inner guidance telling you to put down the donut, control your words and tongue, get to your job and appointments on time, turn off the porn, get out of the mall, turn off the TV, turn away from tempting flirtation, resist lies and a “Me and Mrs. Jones” affair, get on the treadmill, read your Bible, get up an hour earlier to avoid rushing and being late to work, shut your mouth and choose your battles wisely, finish your task at hand, hang up your clothes, save and tithe your money, return that phone call, put down the soda and drink some water, etc.

Learning self-discipline in the little things of life prepares the way for big successes.

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God’s Perfect Ways

“During troubled times you can have blessed assurance, perfect peace and a strong faith. If you can feel and really understand the words of Psalm 23, you will know why I say, “I am too blessed to be stressed” 

The Lord is my Shepherd (perfect salvation).

I shall not want (perfect satisfaction)

He maketh to lie down in green pastures (perfect rest)

He leadeth beside still waters (perfect refreshment)

He restoreth my soul (perfect restoration)

He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness (perfect guidance)

I will fear no evil (perfect protection)

Thou art with me (perfect companionship)

Thy rod and Thy staff (perfect comfort)

Thou preparest a table (perfect provision)

Thy anoinest my head (perfect consecration)

My cup runneth over (perfect joy)

Surely, surely (perfect confidence)

Goodness and mercy shall follow me (perfect care)

I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever (perfect destiny)

 

If you have my book SISTERFRIENDS, this above message is on page 82.

Stress Buster Video

You may be trying to press through your mess.   You may feel oppressed by your job or depressed with your finances or relationships.  You may feel like you’re making no progress.  Before you have a breakdown, try to break away from your routine.   Stop your busy world and stressful thoughts  for a few minutes.  You can’t fix everything and everyone.  God is in charge.   You will remember that when you take time to enjoy the outdoors.  Let nature nurture and soothe your soul.

There is someplace near you i.e. a lake, a park, the ocean, a river or even your own backyard.   Get outside.   Exhale.  Lay your burdens down.  Gain a new perspective to your old problems.    Watch my short video  and remember to share it with your family, friends and co-workers.

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference, Speaker, Minister and Author of the popular book “You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed.

To book the speaker call 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com